Posted by: cherylyoung | December 1, 2013

My Christmas Greeting to all my friends. Please share

A Time Comes In Your Life


This isn’t exactly a Christmas story, but it just might inspire you to take a moment to reflect this holiday season.

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out ~ ENOUGH!

Enough  fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting  down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears, and through a mantle of wet lashes  you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This  is your awakening.

You  realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.

You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella.

And you realize in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or  beginnings for that matter), and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you; and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you’re not perfect, that not everyone will always  love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are, and that’s okay.   (They’re entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the   importance of loving and championing yourself; and in the process a sense of newfound confidence is born of self-approval.

You  stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you  (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really  count on is the unexpected.

You  learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you; and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own, and to take care  of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You  stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they  are, and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties; and in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You  realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you  is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.

You  begin to sift through all that you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, and how much you should weigh; what you should wear and where you should shop, and what you should drive; how and where you should live, and what you should do for a living; who you should sleep  with, who you should marry, and what you should expect of a marriage; the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.         

You  learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.         

You  learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with; and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.         

You  learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing; and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.

You  learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated   ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation  upon which you must build a life.

You  learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world  and that you can’t teach a pig to sing.

You  learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.

You  learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love. Romantic  love and the familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when  to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs  or your feelings onto a relationship.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man or woman on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You  stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.

You  learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms just  to make you happy. And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely. And  you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10, and you stop trying to compete with the image  inside your head and agonizing over how you “stack up.”

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things   over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are  perfectly OK. And that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.         

You  come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect; and you won’t settle for less. And, you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with his/her touch and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.         

And you learn that your body really is your temple, and you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You  learn that for the most part,in life you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You  learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing  for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need  direction, discipline, and perseverance.

You   also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it’s OK to risk asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time. FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and  through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle  it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your  terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living  under a cloud of impending doom.

You  learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think  you deserve; and that sometimes-bad things happen to unsuspecting, good  people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state ~ the ego. You learn negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you, and poison  the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong  and to building bridges instead of walls.

You  learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can  only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm  bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself  by yourself; and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never settle for less than your heart’s desire.

And  you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.And you make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Finally, with courage in your heart and with Spirit by your side you take a stand; you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life that you want to live as best as you can.         

~Author         Unknown~

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  1. Wow, amazing share, something I needed to read! Thanks Cheryl

    • I am going to print it out for everyone who is coming to the Christmas Party

  2. Inspiring, thought provoking words. Many thanks Cheryl Young! I’m looking forward to seeing you and the other fabulous Sidney Meet Up Business Ladies at the Christmas Party!

  3. rewarded for taking the time to read this… a spirit I admire.

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